What Are Best Friends For?

So what are Best friends for? and what makes a best friend? Is there some sort of criteria? hmm...so many questions and so little time to blog.

It's funny how friendships are formed. Put a couple of ppl together, force them to be together for a week or so, and soon you get a chemical bonanza of cliques and friendships that are formed. Even a few days would suffice in fact (church camp was just 4 days). Of course, all friendships start on the basis of something superficial...similar interests, same class, same bus, soccer khakis, you name it. But all friendships start that way. No friendship is ever serious at first.

It's funny how loosely the word 'best friend' is used. I used to say that i had lots of 'best friends', without realising the singular nature of 'best'. Still, i made lots of best friends. Most notably Fab, following up from P1 till now. But lots of times i've felt that 'best friends' has become a label, something that we are obligated to keep....or perhaps there is something deeper than that.

It comes a moment when both parties attain a certain level of trust, with personal issues and problems and such, and with even secrets. The friendship grows beyond the superficiality of interests and idle talking. Take it a notch up and you get what you call 'best friends'...it's a long and painful process, but you get there, somehow, and somehow that obligation as 'best friends' keeps you going with a passion and love for one another. It's funny.

Best friends...expected to always be together, talking, chatting, helping one another, always there for one another. Expected, but surprisingly not true. Sometimes, Best friends don't appear as best friends. It's funny, but I've never been the one who talks most with Fab or with Ding, in class i'm staying real far from them, occasionally striking up a conversation. But that's mainly due to the fact that there are others around. And others to interact with.

When it comes down to the crux, that's where you know who your bestest friends are. Best friends are always there in sorrow, in loneliness...i'm sure you guys all know that already. Jesus was always there for me, for us, and He is surely are best friend no? But that aside, earthly best friends are also always sticking near to one another in adversity. When the rest of the world shows little concern, your best friends will always be there!

Best friends might not be the one who console you the most. They might just keep quiet, staying close to you, but not uttering a word. Who said love had to be expressed verbally, just your presence, just your gaze, is suffice to warm a cold heart :D Best friends accept one another's flaws, and are forever loving and forgiving.

Friends are important. The best of friendships are both joyful yet painful. And that's something for all of us to discover.